.... It's just as well I'm almost impossible to embarrass...
Took Quyn with me to collect Kai, yesterday and again today (walking back through the park so they can both run off some energy). Bratling comes out of the school gates, we get maybe six yards down the road, he frowns up at me and says, "Mum, what happens when you have sex?"
Now, we've always encouraged him to ask questions, and we've always tried to answer him then and there - and today was no different. But Kai doesn't just want to know the 'what' of things: he wants to know the 'how' and 'why' and 'where' as well...
So - to the bemusement of the other parents collecting their sprogs - I started the impromptu sex education lesson. (A little further down, the road was, thankfully, empty of pedestrians...)
Actually he knew the mechanics already, from things we've explained in the past and from talking to other boys in the playground (for gods' sakes, he's 7! It's his second week of Junior School! Is it me or are they maturing earlier these days?), so instead of the usual 'penis in vagina' chat we discussed what happened when you had an orgasm (boys and girls), that it's perfectly OK to masturbate, what a clitoris is, what an erection is...
It got quite interesting at one point. After explaining (when he asked) that moving in and out in straightforward sex is exciting and arousing and that's what leads to orgasm (for the man, anyway), he asked,
"But boys can't do that, can they?"
Me: "Well, yes, actually they can."
Kai, frowning: "How?"
Brief explanation of male/male sex later, Kai, thoughtfully: "Oh." [brief silence] "But girls can't, can they?"
Me: "Yes, they can."
Kai: "How? They haven't got penises."
Me (keeping it to basic bodily parts for now - we'll deal with toys and more complex practices at a later date!): "They use their fingers."
Well, this was all accepted, and we spent the last five minutes of the walk home discussing slang names for the sex organs (can't have my bratling mocked in the playground for not knowing, now, can I?)
Y'now, I just knew I'd be the one to handle this - I can almost *hear* Ken's sigh of relief. And I've finally been able to explain properly what we mean when we tell Kai that if anybody tries to do anything to him he doesn't want, he can do anything to get away - kick, scream, hit, bite... (And that doesn't exclude us or the medical fraternity, except in emergencies or with his agreement.)
Heh. I can't fault his curiosity, but his timing stinks...
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Joules *Dances with Haddock* Taylor
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